tactless? or reckless?

There are many types of personalities and many different classifications as well. The best & most memorable to me is my PSI 4 personalities- controller, promoter, supporter, analyst. How do you know which you belong to? Just ask 2 questions to yourself. Are you dominant or flow with? Formal or informal. The formal dominants are the controllers, informal dominants - promoters, formal flow withs - analyst, informal flow withs - supporter. You can even still further subdivide each into 4 again making this a 16 square matrix. And depending on your present circumstances, you can shift from one personality to another. There is no wrong and right personality, just better ways to relate to people using this tool. And so I've used this for family, friends, and most specially work. I've been successful so far but my topic may fall under any square which makes it difficult to deal with.

I am a person who believes in the universe. That there is a general flow of things and there is superior being who I know as God. In making decisions, I listen to the universe. What the hell is this universe? The universe is everything surrounding you. So, if you are doing something which crosses a lot of people or circumstances, that probably means you are not listening well and heeding the signs. Whereas, the opposite would be all things in the universe in perfect harmony & peace. Among this, we have our basic instincts (which may be the universe talking to us). There are people whom we have just met yet we know that we will get along with perfectly. And then again, there are others where no matter how hard you try, you just can't get along. And these people get into your nerves with their tactless &/or reckless words and actions.

Tactless & reckless - may mean the same for some people but actually have very different meanings. While both may be hurtful, intentions make them stand from opposite sides of the spectrum. Tactlessness means saying or doing things which may hurt but don't intend to. Normally a product of wrong upbringing, miseducation or miscommunication. You'd know tactless people because after a while, you get used to their remarks and you understand that despite the words or the actions, they have a deep sense of care or even love for you.

Recklessness on the other hand is intentionally doing bad things. These are things that have been thought of and have consciousness of its gravity yet are still delivered. Most are cleverly said but have an underlying negative tone in between the lines. People like this may have a deep sense of anger towards you, themselves or the universe and trying to get back at something. This comes out as lashing out to people in public (and even private) but making sure that they are heard and felt.

I have my share of both these kinds of people, just like everybody I'm sure. Some are just acquaintances, some really close to me but unfortunately some who I have to live with for the rest of my life. I share all these concerns with my husband and surely he knows what I am talking about. After all, that's what a marriage is about, to have a companion whom you can share your thoughts with. Being the kind person that I am, I am mostly naive to reckless words & actions; hence, I ask his opinion on the matter to make sure it is not just me taking things too personally. Sometimes, even others from the outside notice it which makes it even more disgusting.

How should one do it? Be HOT! Honest, Open, Trusting. In all that you think, say & do. But remember, everything done in a gentle fashion and being conscious of ther presence of society is best for you and the universe.

So I end this post with a prayer:

Dear Lord, You have given me wonderful parents who raised me well, made me an achiever yet kept my feet on the ground, taught me humility & forgiveness. Help me understand those reckless people around me who continue to lash out on me on every opportunity they get. May you instill in their hearts the true meaning of love and sensitivity to others. After all, we are all brothers & sisters in Your Name. Thank you for my life and for all whom I love.